Shamefully Denying

I don't understand this and I'm hoping someone out there can explain it to me... Why when you have been caught lying, do you still cling to whatever thread of falsity you have and deny it all? For those of you that haven't read any of my earlier posts, I was involved in a bad relationship with a guy who did nothing but lie and manipulate me. Even though I have exposed all of his lies (with evidence) he still hides behind them and even makes up new lies to avoid the truth.

Is being truthful so scary that some people feel like they need to hide behind a curtain of deception? I doubt that it is so terrifying that even a single honest remark will make them pee themselves with fear. Excuse me but that is just pathetic. Once you have been caught, you are caught. Why draw it out and waste everyones time? Do you guys ever feel that way or am I the only crazy one online. 

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Comments (6)

  1. killingtime

    Well you know he is lying. You have the proof he is lying. So what more do you need? Why are you wanting him to admit it when you already know that it’s true? Seems to me that your wasting your time for no good reason. Turn & walk away. Don’t look back.
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    I guess if you really need a reason he won’t admit that he is lying just look at yourself. You are still in contact with him. If he admitted it you would be gone so he is still manipulating you into staying. There’s a reason.

    September 13, 2015
    1. stronggirl

      I don’t know, I guess I just feel like I need closure and he is refusing to give that to me. You’re right though, not telling me is just another way he is still manipulating me.

      September 13, 2015
      1. killingtime

        I think that’s just a difference between the sexes. Men generally accept that closure is when the break up happens. Women generally don’t accept that as closure & want something else. I think both would be better of if they threw up their hands & yelled “it’s over” & then just walked away with a cleared mind.

        September 13, 2015
  2. judep24

    yes, sme happen with me..

    September 13, 2015
  3. bechtol

    That happened to me—being the liar that is. I was caught, denied it and stuck with the denying. Even when threatened with divorce or admit it, I stood firm in my denial. He promptly filed, and that was that. Even now if he were to ask If I regret not admitting it, I’d still say there was nothing to admit. Not sure why I will not come clean.

    September 13, 2015
  4. GoldenPig2012

    We lie to protect ourselves or others. Mostly ourselves. We don’t want to be “in trouble” or appear “less than” another. Whether it’s white lies or big ol’ whoppers, most are told to NOT be seen as less than we are. That’s all I’ve got.

    September 13, 2015